It could be, very simply, that your S.O. LEAVE HIM. Men go through depression, hurt and sorrow just like us women do. He started texting her about how a great time they had and flirting with her. I cant tell you what to do, I can tell you what it feels like to stay and feel the harshness of hurtful words for years at a time. This became such an issue that, we fight basically every days I do everything to make his life easier. The man I end up with will not leave me hanging feeling sad and confused. Works always. I have been with my boyfriend for over 7 months now. Never any action. I have tried so many times to let the relationship go and have broken up with him, but he does not want to let me go. I met my boyfriend at work. It feels awful when you feel like you care about him more than he does about you. He knew my day was not going well and that I have dinner ready for him every single night and just once, I ask him to just do it for me! Ive told him why I need contact to stay connected to each other n to feel secure n have fun. Im in the same exact boat. I understand law school is a rigorous program but for some reason he has been unhappy and stressed about everything that is going on in his life. Now my mom did not know about my boyfriend i was afraid to tell her cause she probably wouldnt approve that he didnt go to school. To me it seems like your boyfriend is causing your anxiety and making you feel down which is not okay at all. Im still dissatisfied I guess. Hes not as affectionate, he doesnt help me plant my flowers, & he doesnt go to bed when I do. and even whn im thr at his place, he would play his game until its time to sleep and then repeat the same thing everyday. He only got me a childrens bear . I just dont know what to do. It just seems like a cliche movie begining or something. Not just that, sexually as well. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and I just dont know how to feel about things. X. I know this is a late reply but do you feel like he respects you? Am I being needy too much? My boyfriend made no effort for my birthday and sent me a 2 line email and when I expressed my disappointment didnt speak to me for days. ? line and starts listing all the nice things he did recently. I assumed he was dozing off cause he usually do. Its amazing how identical to yours he is. The sex? I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and will be 4 years this August. Always cussed them out and called them names, and he works a whole day.. we are now behind on bills , our electric is over 300$ , our wifi is 170+$, we have another wifi bill from another company thats 200+$, and hes had multiple concussions and a broken hip from hockey a long time ago.. Hes become so inward that I have to question him daily and it hurts.. He said he wanted to have a deeper talk about expectations and his four years old son before we can be official. A relationship is 50/50. Just stop talking to him and stop making so much effort. I just now accidentally found this article and my rather lengthy comment. Im not sure how to approach any of this with him. You can only hold on to hoping that things change for so long. I always drive to his and he never makes an effort to go to me. I feel like we should break up but as I say he is my life its really difficult and I dont want to hurt him. First, the more you push, the more he will pull back, because whatever his reason is, the pressure from you wont help. He never compliments me, from my perspective he only tells me when Im not doing something right. He said that the only thing I require of him is to give me attention. We are an older couple early 60s. He has been going through a lot, with an unsupportive family, a broken ankle, financial troubles, depressionbut I have been steady and I have been supportiveI have loved him so well. He tells me constantly how much he loves me.. I went through a period of unemployment and he was not emotionally supportive through this period. I appreciate when he does make effort and try to acknowledge it but it quickly goes away like he doesnt mean it. You want him to be different. So thats why he wasnt there and because his board broke. We lived together in my apartment for about a year & a half. This man is no good for you, and he will never learn how to grow out of his depression if theres someone always doing everything for him. Whenever I go anywhere its just me and the kids! And hes unshowered and playing video games! Girl please, stop wading knee deep in his shit! He apologized but I was just so hurt. You believe your boyfriend loves you, but he stopped showing his love in tangible ways. I really dont know what how to go about it. At the beginning, I was super in love with him and I would put in so much effort. WebHe gets upset when he sees me giving attention to other guys but goes back to ignoring me when I give him attention. Do not sound attacking or desperate. I miss him and who he use to be,at the same time am preparing myself for the worst! His What am I not doing for you now that you want me to do? or Have I not done enough for you? bullsh*t attitude is bringing me to near madness. And, your definition of not making an effort may not match your boyfriends definitionwhich means youre operating from a completely different set of expectations. Don't Ignore the Role of Physical Attraction. He chose to try with his ex leaving me broken hearted but we remained friends. 6 Ways to Revive Your Relationship. Weve been together for almost 3 years and Ive stuck out the lack of attention for about a year and it really hurt. I told him I loved him and the only reason why I would ever leave him is if he cheated on me. That said, he told me hes doing a lot better now and hes still acting distant. you can still offer him emotional support (from a distance) if he needs itgood luck, xoxo. My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up recently, but within a few days, he decided he wanted to get back together to work things out. ?pretty much hurts and also my first. This makes me feel like he just needs me to help him with work. Is your boyfriend an emotionally unavailable man? Before that weve only met to chat, watch a movie or take a walk. I dont want to decorate his car or buy him that cake. Hes him. I hope everything goes well for both us to get this relationship last. Im feeling pained and upset with myself the concessions Ive made and feeling as though theres no room for compromise. I finally thought things were getting so much better for both of us. Ive thought of letting him go because hes not what I want in a relationship, but hes the only one in this world that knows every single thing thats been in my head. Were both divorced. So, whether you've only just noticed your partner giving you the proverbial cold shoulder or have undergone the iciness for weeks/months/years, now is the time to take a closer look at your relationship to establish the reason for the discontent and determine if the partnership is worth mending. Thats it. Maybe hes just tired from working too much? And i couldnt forget it. Start by letting go slowly. I am like at the I dont know what to do stage right now my boyfriend is not even home because I told him to just leave we got together super fast and since the beginning I noticed that he wasnt affectionate at all but I thought he might be shy but as time passed he still is non affectionate at all! He sense my seriousness and took me out on a date, told me he will make more time to spend with me once a week (Im busy too so once a week is good for me.) But I always gave him the benefit of the doubt. I want to tell him that having me over for take out and to spend the night is not enough. Its sad when other give you the compliments that you are looking from in one person. He has not made me do any of this. I relate so much with this comment its exhausting. I just dont know what to do. But nope as well. The times he comes over my house on his days off its really late at night because he says he is tired and wants to lay down the whole day. We are now in quarantine and I have mostly been the one to come see him. Again Im the only one putting in effort. 7) He thinks youre not interested and has given up If the guy who has suddenly started ignoring you was super interested not long ago but has apparently stopped pursuing you he could have decided to cut his losses. I love him however because of his lack of effort Im almost ready to walk away for good. We just hang out in my house. Sometimes when I try to kiss him he shoved me away. if he told you he does not see a future with you, as hard as it is, you need to walk away now. He may not be the person for you. Next thing I woke up to a text. I hope you work things out- either way. I ask him what was his intention of saying it and give him the space to nagivate the answer by himself. Watch YouTube videos on narcissistic boyfriends and you will know how lucky you are to be able to get away from him. Keep in mind, he does suffer from depression here and there where he has no energy at times and finds no pleasure in anything. Yes leave him. He is in law school, I am getting my masters, and we also partake in a long distance relationship. I feel lonely and he NEVER wants to go out or do anything. He would always build my hopes up before we call and end up forgetting or when he calls, hes either that hes going to bed or do so while playing his games throughout the call and not pay attention even when i have something to share which hurt my feelings. And the only way to do that to take more care of our own selves, love ourselves moretruly love our self! 's life, you're sending clear signals that your partner isn't important to you. Im 55, I decided I can not live another minute in an unstable relationship. I was dipping into my bucket to bring him up but I wasnt getting anything in return. She saw me with his hat and questioned me and i told her i got it from my best friend and she knew i was lying but didnt care. We both still live at home and even tho hes nearly 21, his parents still have some control over him, he doesnt talk back to them and theyre weird about him staying in my house and doing stuff with me (sometimes not all the time!) My bf has been acting distance from me lately. He told me he loved me within weeks of us meeting. Im starting to think he doesnt want to marry me. If you havent been dating long or if your relationship is less than a year old you may not know your boyfriend well enough to determine why he stopped making an effort. time and time again i have told him why i was upset, what he could do to make the situation better and everything in between, yet he still does nothing. And so its for the most part become an issue I think between us. but i told him nah! Take matters into your own hands.be who you need for yourself, Love you and your son enough to care for your own needs. Coming to the realization that a partner is no longer emotionally invested in your commitment isn't an easy pill to swallow, and it's definitely not something to ignore. When I spoke to Lisa, his wife, she said was fed up with the lack of affection she felt she Hello everyone, i have a story to share! He doesnt think. Ill leave him alone. I told him about how I felt scared I looked too nerdy in my full protection hear and helmet and everyone else wasnt wearing any. And boom..you would be able to leave him to be single and be open for someone whod treat you just the way you deserve. He used to come over to my place so often no matter what day what time. His self-absorbtion is engrained and chronic- and not my issue to fix. He says he works so hard for me or us so we can have the things we want in life and Im so grateful but money isnt everything. For our year and a half anniversary I didnt have money at the time and we were fighting a lot but I made him a good luck bracelet and wrote him a very personal card. He ignores you. When he wants to intimate with me i have told him severl times i do not trust you,because i couldnt forget that incident. I decided to pull back and just sit and watch. But I feel as though he does not see the page that I am on, is there any way I can do that without it being an argument? It is always me who looks up special events to go to like Gamevention (cause he likes video games), new Indian restaurants (cause he likes spicy food), or initiates going for a walk. He is failing to realize that I am being affected too. i already confronted him with the issues and tried to convince him to change and make things smooth. He studies in a university and was about to graduate when the lockdown began. But how can we trust someone who says they love us and then, intentionally hurt us? I always refuse because I want to make it on my own. Weve been together a year and a half now. Help. I dont know what to do and need some advice. He is playing you and gas lightning you! Like hes not gonna change. This is good advice thanks, Ive been dating my boyfriend for six months now and its been a really hard couple of months for us. You can let go slowly at first and just start seeing other people. We had the break up talk several times a day, and at the end of it, it was one of the other begging to stay together because they believed we could fix it. Antidepressents can be a good way to start on the road back to normal just to give you some emotional stability. Like by shouting Im gonna get scared or intimated. "It was hard taking the constant rejection." should i stay or let go? Thats Progress! I reslect to my culture. Is he older? Or maybe your boyfriend is dealing with an ex-wife and custody issues, and just doesnt have the time or energy to make an effort in your relationship. Or do I allow that this person has already shown me who they are, and leave? The bonus to this approach? to tell you honestly, im the one who makes effort for us to be together because he lives far away from me and i understand his conditon that he cant travel far.. im not a demanding partner all i want is for him to make little efforts to make me feel special and loved. Nor was him working full time and on his masters degree for 18 months. We were living together but decided to try living apart since we jumped into the relationship. How can he be so sure of that and not even care to nurture our relationship? The man is now in jail. Its been since then that the dating pattern of our relationship has declined significantly. I bought him a journal for prompting thoughts of positivity and gratitude, He acted appreciative and was OK to do the morning and evening prompts. I am always will to do anything however since I love notice it was only me doing it Ive been reluctant. But he never tells me how he feels when I ask. I feel like my heart is breaking already, just waiting for the dreaded phone call to say he cant give me what I want when Ive said all I want is some time together an hour here or there, some texts to show he cares I dont feel its much but if its too much for him then I guess I need to accept things. Then nothing. The middle of this relationship scale is a 5: youve been dating for a year or more, and you know each other fairly well. I dont think what Im asking for is difficult to do that it would take months to see any results. My boyfriend recently broke up with me. In fact, because you are so young, they will most likely find you when you least expect it. Im going to be a junior in a few months and hell be a freshman in college. HE NEVER CLEANS. If so, you have to trust that your relationship can handle this temporary lull in affection and attention. I dont know, I hope someone out there can relate or help with how I feel. my ex best friend told him everything and ever since then its been a nightmare. When I got back to our dorm that night I ft him and told him it felt right but It was also an accident. Were in our late 20s. Then we start texting, he seems fine again and things are good and a month or so later it happens again. he likes to live in the moment as he says. Life is too short to waste it being miserable and stressed out and fighting over stupid shit. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months. Im 47, and he is 57 now, and we have been together for 10 years now and have lived together for 8 years. She tried to meet my bf but she found out about more crazy stuff and i got into a lot of trouble. He said I did agree to go to the park this weekend. InWhen He Doesnt Make Time for You: How to Create More Love in Your Relationship, Byron Katie shows a man how to build a better relationship by questioning thoughts such as I want him to spend more time with me.. I am really sad about it, because I know we love each other, but this relationship as it is doesnt satisfy me. This person uses sarcasm to take me down a peg, even after I said that Im not here for that. He used to call me at night before he sleeps,now he doesnt anymore,he takes days to reply my whatsapp messages. Im not sure where you landed with your relationship, but I hope things are better for you. ANGRY ALL THE TIME. This time, it doesnt feel like it will. Now he is distant and asked for time and space. He seems to always have excuses. I MEAN EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN LIFE BUT I WOULD INSIST ON HIM CHANGING THE DRINKING NOW OR LATER YOU COULD BE LIVING MY LIFE. He was all amazing.. first few months showered me with flowers and gifts then slowly I started to see his true colours. I give it some days to really think what I wanted to do and I decided I wanted to work it out so I talked to him and expressed how I felt and ask what made him want to do this. Dont EXPECT him to show up for it, but try to share it with him a little bit. The truth is that there are a number of reasons that could cause your partner to check out emotionally. Wow I can relate so much to this. He has cheated messages online I found a year ago. Its hard to deal with a person who slowly neglects you emotionally. Ive put my career aside to help him build his business. Also, and Im not materialistic by any means, hes offered to buy me lots of things or even just give me money to help with bills. Youre boyfriend seems like a catfish. you are still young and you should take this time to learn about yourself and then find the right man that will want a future with you. The fact that you can recognize how unhealthy his argument style is, but he cant, means youre a mismatch. And i blamed him roudly.. And he promised me that his intention was nit to cheat me and said sorry. I just dont feel like he loves me , why am I with him & what is he not getting ? Sometimes I felt that he was mad at me, he would say that I was a show off or that I always took things too seriously. As well BALANCE is a VERY hard thing for men I have learned. He has joint custody of his 17 yr old daughter and about 2 months ago he found out that her stepdad had been engaging in sexual activity with her. Perhaps you're the one whos losing interest: If you're constantly distracted, always on the phone, and aren't invested in your S.O. i understand with everything going on it is hard, but that was an issue with my ex-husband after we had kids. I dont want to talk about marriage or kids or the future. When I have tried to speak about it again, he makes me feel as if its my fault, when he doesnt see his change in actions are making me stressed and anxious. That way, I can assure two things. Then keep being the fabulous person that you are. Ive been upset ever since and its only been a week but Im feeling really low and I have bad anxiety in general but its been worse lately because of him. I want to give myself time to breath but when I do, again I feel lazy and like Im doing nothing with my life. Weve been together for 5 years. So i get back from fall break and i zoom him.hes acting different and grumpy and meanhe told me he was moving back to his home state and never coming backI started balling my eyes out I was so confused. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 yrs & was confused and often questioned his love for me & his commitment to me. I would be the one driving to go see him, but I still over looked it and gave him benefit of doubt. I dont know why he continues on with me if he has no interest. He does spend time with us and financially he is very supportive which Im great full for. we havent dated for long (~3.5 months) so i could be overreacting, but at the same time, im tired of the lack of effort on his end. he said hell give me more time but nothing ever changes. What Im gonna do? Boy bye. After crying and getting rid of the emotional baggage, I realize now how fortunate I am to be out of that relationship. But I clearly have seen enough examples of the ones who simply stops caring when they are sure that we will be theirs and we will always care about them no matter what. He said he was torn and worried about Coronavirus. but he never ever ever takes any pictures of me to show me off. I used to think eventually wed work through the kinks and finally stop arguing. You have to be more understanding. I asked him a couple of times why he doesnt put any effort and he just told me since we live together I shouldnt have to and I get that point but it doesnt mean just completely give up on putting a effort into the relationship. He has been better now and takes time to analyze his intention before he says more. But now that he has you he sees he doesnt have to try anymore. i want to try to talk to him about it since we never argued or anything but ive been feeling this way for quite a while and i dont want to just break up with him like that. You see, now when you decide to leave him, its not because you dont love him, but its because you love yourself and respect yourself far more than you love him. My expectations: Be an adult while fighting. He says I cant accept him for who he is because he had been this way all his life, but I tried to explain that its taking a toll on me. Its so hard due to his work ,he still trying his best to see me at least thats what he told me. Yes, I feel as if hes pulled away from me. I dont know what to do or how to feel.. Im trying to figure out if its his depression thats making him stress to make more money as well as not doing anyrhjng for me or the home we live in, or if he truly doesnt care for me or my feelings and Im just here for the mean time to do things for him? He stays at my house an wont clean a dish or pick up his trash off my floor. Most people reading this right now are probably thinking oh my god youre so young and u have so much time! His was 9 years ago but he is still very bitter. Girl what? Those arent just low relationship expectations, theyre unhealthy patterns of behavior. And dont get me wrong, I enjoyed spending time with him regardless, it just got really boring and frustrating after half a year. So yeah after that we began talking and calling. I didnt really understand why he said that when I been there since day one and still been here but I wanted to also considered how he felt and change that. Text messages are very slow to respond, I dont text him ten times a day either. Ive been with him since july 2020 and its been rocky but its resolved and yeah there is zero effort to hang out and i have to initiate everything. My boyfriend of 7 years had lost interest over the past year, not wanting to see or spend time with me, 3 months now I havent seen him once. Im a stay home mom right now but still help my BF with reports, programs etc for work. Its not just a lack of attention. Communicate with him without fighting. for example, yesterday, he gave me a box of chocolates only because his mom made him and i usually have to make the first moves, even if its something simple as reaching out to hold hands. Is he telling me things just to shut me up or does he blurt things out impulsively. He has always been so sweet and consistent. We have complete separate paths in store and we have absolutely nothing in common and we also live together but we barely see each other so you would think that when we do have time for one another he would enjoy the time he has with me but it doesnt feel like that. Weve been dating a little over a year. And thats what messes with me a lotwhy doesnt he want to do the same for me. He gets annoyed and sighs and does the What do you want from me now?? Its okay to build from scratch instead of being in an emotionally abusive relationship and constantly being destroyed in to nothing. In the second year of the relationship we were going out a lot to bars and clubs, and he began to drink a lot, and would become very aggressive with me, and started to treat me bad. he again skipped it. I go to his house on Sundays and help with his kids. He never seems to try, you know. So, my boyfriend and i have known each other our entire lives. He stopped foreplay. The first time I actually felt MORE irritated. And im as asian girl. I have since ended the relationship as I feel it is a one way system with him taking and not giving. I just feel stupid and I kinda want to give up on him. There is a possibility we wont be together if he gets accepted into grad school because its in another state. im going through the same thing my boyfriend will not text me nor will he call me when i text him again he reply and said his mother getting on his nerve he goes to her house to take care of her he said he been going through alot with his mom very upset but my thing is what about me where do i fit into your life i dont even know if were still in a relationship my daughter say dont text or call him we been together over a year hes 52 im 55 what should i do im lost, Ive been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half now. Its long distance and he is 8 hours ahead of me. You may find it helpful to write about your relationship. Now he doesnt do any of those, and I miss how it was before. June 2019 meet my boyfriend, July 2020 get fire from a 2 year job, November 2020 get fired from 3 month job and currently still unemployed. We spent four weekends together at his place and virtually every day together on a mutual project for a month. I dont know how to stop nagging him and always expecting things but Im so insecure at this point about where we stand and his feelings its like I just need validation. Get woke honey, the mans just not that into you. So any advice would be helpful. He also gave his daughter my phone number so she could text me as she wasnt feeling well. Just because he's hot and cold doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you and is backing out. You cant change your boyfriend. Find a low-key, nonthreatening way to approach him. I tried to explain this to him. i jst think hes all abt himself and idk wht do. I thought that would be an isolated incident but it happened again this weekend. Which I loved! I met other guys got into relationships but didnt work. My ex-best friend snitched to my mom and told her everything about my bf and got some info from close friends about me meeting him secretly so my mom gradually started finding stuff out. I was in so much pain and he couldnt even come to check on me. Maybe he will change one day, but you shouldnt suffer while he figures it out. Maybe hes coping with financial problems in his professional or personal life, or grieving the los of someone he loves. I love drinking with him and having a laugh but he doesnt seem to feel the same. For example, his car broke down in a town more then an hour away. I talk about this with him. This weekend I called for a break, and told him we should spend time apart. You can change how you respond to your boyfriend and everything else in your life. LOL. He also doesnt seem as interested in what I have to say anymore. You should never settle. A little reminder that you're an equal part of the relationship and have needs, too, could help redirect their focus. hes never romantic, never takes me anywhere spontaneously it just goes on. It was over a year ago that I asked my boyfriend if he would take me out on a date, but it never happen. He said the reason we broke up was because of different love languages, arguing, and that he was not as emotionally available as I need him to be. Could you be the one who's not listening? Xx. The first few months of the relationship that was a constant and we were dying to see eachother every other weekend. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 years. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months also and at the beginning he put in so much effort above and beyond and now its like he is a different person. I realised hes never going to change, no matter how many times Ive brought it up. There is little to no effort from my boyfriend and every time I try to communicate that with him nothing changes. I realized how I stopped wearing some clothes because he didnt like them, for example. But theres one time where I got really mad and told him what i feel about everything and he said he was sorry and he tell me how much he loves me. He also gave me his hat. He doesnt come over, we dont go on dates. Within the past 2 years. One thing that has been helping me is just leaving the room to give each other space. Of course you want him to make an effort to wine and dine Till then, you should be determined not to commit to anything or anyone. YESTERDAY I TEXTED HIM AN TOLD HIM THE TRASH SMELT BAD AND HE SAID OKAY ILL TAKE IT OUT WHENI GET HOME. He does not feel like he should go the extra mile to do anything as long as you know he loves you. What should I do? Its Valentines Day and this is the only holiday or day in general I care about. 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